Podcast: How to maintain a healthy relationship - Pt.1

Host: Ash & Daryl

Daryl and Ash talk about how to create and maintain healthy relationships with friends, family, and colleagues.

Podcast: How to maintain a healthy relationship - Pt.2

Host: Ash & Daryl

Guests: Ayesha & Samantha

Daryl and Ash speak to Ayesha and Samantha about the language of love, energy vampires, and toxic relationships.

If you are curious to find out which love language fits you best, you may try out the Love Language Test here: https://www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/love-language

Positive self-talk: Building a good relationship with yourself

We all have a commentator in our lives, the little voice that lives in our heads that seems to have something to say about everything that we do or don’t, for that matter. Watching sports events seems to be more enjoyable when we get a good commentator and the same may apply to our personal lives.

This little voice in our heads is the self-talk that we practice consciously and subconsciously - like having a mental rehearsal of what to say in a meeting or stopping yourself from making a joke because it sounded lame in your head. Sometimes these self-talks can be more hurtful than helpful, but it’s difficult to realise it because we have been accustomed to negative feedback whenever things aren’t as expected.

I tend to blame myself for everything that goes wrong and when things are good, thinking that I could have done better. It has been more than 500 days since we have been in a lockdown with countless uncertainties. On top of that, losing a loved one and my job - all this negativity was too much to handle and my negative self-talk intensified. Upon noticing the issue, a realisation hit that it needed to be fixed, thinking to myself “If you’re fixated on the negativities, how are you going to see the good things in life?”.

I started counteracting the negative voices with positive truths. For instance, the automatic response when we make a mistake would be “Omg, I screwed up again” which will be consciously counteracted these days with “I know I made a mistake, I’ve learned from it and it has made me a better person”. The truth is that the mistake has been made, but I choose to reframe my self-talk with positive words. With time and practice, you will find yourself being kinder to yourself, having more confidence, and essentially loving yourself a little more.

We’re our own worst critics and sometimes we hinder ourselves from growing unknowingly. Words are powerful, so choose your words wisely, practice positive self-talk to find that obscured optimism, and build a good relationship with yourself - be your own best friend who celebrates your success, accepts your flaws, and encourages you to be the best version of yourself.

Check out this Steve Harvey speech that has inspired my change:

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Video: Dude, Where’s My Forest?

Host: Daniel Anthony

Daniel's been a tad impatient with the amount of stuff that's been going on and is here with your September issue of F's to Give! Think you know what the covid numbers mean? Think again as Daniel crunches the numbers for you. Also, figure out how to hit back at a certain kind of internet troll and learn about why you need to care about green - even if it's not your colour.