A couple of days ago, my girlfriend said she wanted to get the DVD of former Health Minister’s Dr Chua Soi Lek's sex-capade. She asked me if I would like to watch it with her. Of course, my initial response was ‘Yes’ but upon pondering on the issue for a couple of seconds, I decided against it.

Then I got to thinking. What does the fact that Chua and his mistress were watching a pornographic DVD just before they had sex tell you? It tells you that their relationship has weathered many years. Every couple knows that after some years of marriage, we need external stimulation to arouse us.

This is very normal and it is nothing wrong. It’s a sign that the relationship has reached a mature level. What happenned between Chua and his mistress is very, very private.

All relationships have to get worse before they can get better. It is at this point where the relationship either makes or breaks. Sometimes, an affair strengthens a relationship as like in a wake up call for the other party. Unfortunately, most of the time it breaks a union.

But an affair with a married man is a total no-no in every level of our society. And yet it happens. Weren’t you and I, at some point in our lives, attracted to someone else? For some of us, it did not end up in an affair. But the attraction and the temptation were there, weren’t they? So how can we put on a ‘holier than thou attitude’?

Whoever succeeded in tarnishing Chua’s reputation is a real coward who knew Chua had no weaknesses. He only had this one mistress - a major mistake of his career because we expect better from our representatives.

Why does every other doctor that I meet on the street sing nothing but praises of Chua? He is a good man I believe. We all have our weaknesses. Should we be punished for one weakness or should we look at the bigger picture?

Whether Chua tries to make his marriage work or decides to marry his mistress, it is up to him. But I wish him well.